Wednesday, January 1, 2020


It's funny how bringing home a new dog makes you think of your old dog. Now that we have Cully, I think of Ray all the time. There is a constant mental comparison going on. Not in a bad way just a "huh" kind of way. Either Cully does something just like Ray resulting in an "Oh, Ray used to do that!" moment, or she does something totally the opposite which makes me think, "Well, Ray never used to do THAT."

Every day, for every tiny detail, comparisons are made. Cully is incredibly excited at mealtime and finishes her meal in a gulp whereas Ray would politely wait just outside the kitchen and then slowly and methodically eat his bowl of gruel. Sometimes he even finished it. Cully looks out windows, which I find fascinating. Ray only ever "looked" out the front door. Cully likes only the couches; Ray liked variety, sleeping on the couches and the chairs and the floor. Cully steps on Lionel without even noticing; Ray rarely, if ever, stepped on a cat. Cully steals fabric softener sheets to roll around on, so did Ray. After a big show of chewing a vegetable, Cully either spits out a big glob of whatever or actually EATS a veg. Ray would never let a vegetable even TOUCH his lips. Cully is unsure around children; Ray could not contain his excitement. Cully is afraid of everything; Ray was fearless. Cully loves her new brain game (Christmas present) just as much as Ray loved his (brain games were his raison d'ĂȘtre).

Then there are the physical comparisons. Cully's ears are longer than Ray's. She doesn't have his stamina. Her voice is deeper and more melodious than Ray's (but let's face it, there will never be another fog horn crossed with a seal). Cully's legs are shorter but somehow she takes up more room on a couch than Ray. Cully doesn't have the dancing eyebrows that Ray had or his head tilt (I really miss these), but she has a tail wag that can't be beat. Cully is paws-y, she likes to touch her humans; Ray was careful where he put his paws.

The comparisons go on and on. I can't stop myself from making them but they make me realize something: We love Cully just as much as we loved Ray. She is more "special needs" than he ever was but it doesn't matter, I am grateful that she is here and that she reminds me every day of our amazing, 'gone but not forgotten' blind boy.


  1. I love the comparisons! I think we probably all fo that to some degree. It’s really fun to read about Cully’s personality that is emerging and evolving as she learns the world can be less scary than she thought it was.

    That’s funny about the vegetables. I will always remember what Ray did when he received his blueberry pancakes. :)

    1. It's funny you mention the blueberry pancakes, I recently re-read the pancake thread and when my niece and sis-in-law were here at Christmas we all watched the video of Ray opening his package and burying them. Brought a tear to all our eyes although we were laughing at the same time.

  2. It's so heartwarming to see any pet find a permanent home and settle in. Even more so when the pet has had a struggle prior to that. I think about our pets that are now gone and how the current crop are alike and different, too. It's good to be able to visit those memories and enjoy them, rather than be sad.

    Happy New Year to you and your husband and furry ones! Sounds like it will be a good one!

  3. Thanks for the great update! Glad to see Cully so happy in her new home. Was curious to hear how she did with New Year's Eve fireworks..
    Hope all went uneventfully!

  4. We sometimes tease our current dogs and say they are channeling a dog that's gone. "Oh Bob, are you channeling Jasper? Jasper used to do that. :D

    We love them all.

  5. Gosh, just now seeing that you have been continuing the blog!! So glad. What a sweet photo! And thanks for the mention of Ray's dancing eyebrows - brought back sweet memories :)